Why Life is Meant to Be Enjoyed

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Trying to make sense of the world can be difficult, especially when you realize how backwards people’s priorities are.

If you live and breathe in Western culture, I promise that you are being subjected to a socially constructed myth that you’re either “working and paying your dues”, or you’re “being lazy”. There’s no in-between. Enjoyment is greedy, work is good.

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When Should You Actually Party?

Here’s an interesting dynamic: people always celebrate and party when they feel good. They get some new job or promotion, they win something, it’s someones birthday, or some other event comes out of the blue which energizes everybody. That’s usually when people get together and have a good time.

The other 80-90% of the time–when we feel like shit–we tend to just stay at home. This is when crises, hardship, problems, anxieties, traumas, grief, loss, and everything else which often accompanies life on Earth plagues us, and we can’t think about anything except our specific problems. We just sit around, worry about the future, and stress about what to do next.
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A look at Winston Wu’s controversial site, HappierAbroad.com.

I love to consume large amounts of information and ideas. Occasionally, I stumble on sites that really get me thinking about certain topics. Whether my reaction to some of the ideas are positive or negative is not relevant, because what makes me curious, or gives me a desire to debate, is inherently good for my intellectual appetite.

Among the many sites like this which I frequently visit is HappierAbroad.com. This is a site run by Winston Wu, who I believe is one of the more controversial figures on the net. He has a large amount of critics, and this is readily apparent if you look up his name. I first heard about him from from a post on an internet message board several years ago, where there was a thread with about 100 responses of people making fun of him. This piqued my curiosity, because when I see a bandwagon of people tormenting some poor schmuck on the internet (or anywhere), my first instinct is to take a step back, avoid the “mob mentality”, and find out what’s really going on. As it turns out, Winston actually has a very large fan-base, and many people who are intrigued by his writing and insights which are very politically incorrect. Interestingly, I was introduced to his writing through his critics.
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Are You Seduced by Hyper-Reality?

Unrealistically beautiful people. A glamorous lifestyle you can never achieve. These are the images the media sends us all the time. It’s a carefully constructed hyper-reality which tugs at our desires of who we want to be. The people are usually airbrushed to perfection, and the lifestyles appear equal parts pretentious and exclusive, yet also fun and without the drama or problems we incur in real-life. How can that be?
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How To Become Marketable

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You may have recently read my article: (How To Be Your Own CEO). On this same vein, if you become the CEO of your life, one of the first departments you should establish is a great marketing department.
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Is Retirement Good?

Excitement incarnate.


The game of life, especially in America, is work like a horse to 60 or 65, and then you get your “reward” of work-free existence. You go spend your remaining days at a country club retirement home, playing golf and gossiping about people at morning brunch. Or sometimes you go on a cruise where you can gossip about people at morning brunch while overlooking the Caiman islands.
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How To Be Your Own CEO

Nothing is as ominous as a scary CEO

How do you regulate and manage your life?

I’m asking because I consider myself the CEO of my life. I have different concepts and goals, which I delegate into different “departments” in my mind. On some days, I might be focusing on a particular department (ie: learn how to play some sport, develop a particular web-site, etc.). I’ll journal, and think about ways to enhance this area. If something just isn’t working out, I may be forced to terminate that department.
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How To Be Interesting

“I just want somebody who’s interesting…”

Most girls want this in a guy. And, there’s a lot of guys who want this in girls.

“He / she is not very interesting…”

These are not words you want a potential employer to say after you leave the interview.

“What I do is not very interesting…”

This statement translates to “I’m not a very interesting person”.

Let’s face it, there’s a lot of interesting-anxiety out there. Am I interesting enough?

If you don’t feel like you’re very interesting, there are ways to treat this. Most likely, the culprit is a lack of inner-motivation, a lack of direction, and a tendency to withdraw during your spare time into media-centered anesthetization (video games, movies, web browsing, internet pornography, or whatever you fancy).
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How To Return To School


Also see: How To Figure Out Your Major

These days many people are returning to school as they face the notion that their current skill-set isn’t marketable enough. This usually happens after getting laid-off, or after realizing that jobs are so hard to find that a competitive edge must be created.
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How To Figure Out Your Major


Many people go to college to achieve a degree in something which they believe is the “correct thing to do”. In other words, they have no desire to become a lawyer, but going pre-law and preparing for law school is the “responsible” thing to do, what friends and family want and expect, and therefore the only logical choice.
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How To Have Good Karma


Here’s another ‘new age’ concept people love to toss around: karma.

People frequently use the word, but they don’t understand what it means. From a literal Buddhist perspective we would be delving into subjects like reincarnation, deeds done in past lives, and a lot of other stuff which I frankly don’t care very much about. I don’t have any disrespect against those of this faith, but I don’t believe in karma in this sense.
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How To Stop Being Self Conscious (Part 2)

In the previous article, I discussed the “why” of self conscious behavior, plus the characteristics of it. As previously mentioned, this is a very common problem among people of all ages. While this blog is not a substitute for professional help, the following pieces of advice are my personal methods and ideas for pushing the tide against your self conscious issues.
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