“I just want somebody who’s interesting…”
Most girls want this in a guy. And, there’s a lot of guys who want this in girls.
“He / she is not very interesting…”
These are not words you want a potential employer to say after you leave the interview.
“What I do is not very interesting…”
This statement translates to “I’m not a very interesting person”.
Let’s face it, there’s a lot of interesting-anxiety out there. Am I interesting enough?
If you don’t feel like you’re very interesting, there are ways to treat this. Most likely, the culprit is a lack of inner-motivation, a lack of direction, and a tendency to withdraw during your spare time into media-centered anesthetization (video games, movies, web browsing, internet pornography, or whatever you fancy).
As the Dos Equis’ ‘Most Interesting Man in the World’ would probably tell you, being interesting is not something you try to be, but it’s the sum result of your actions. Most likely, ‘the Most Interesting Man in the World’ does not consider himself interesting, because that would indicate he is trying to be interesting, which is… in fact, not interesting at all!
Actually, trying too hard to seem interesting makes people everywhere think “faker!”. Not unlike being cool (see this article), being interesting requires a conscious effort without showing any surface indication.
The formula goes: interest-building actions = internalization = being interesting.
Give different actions a point-value system of how much interest-value it gives you. For instance, you win a Judo championship, +10 interest. You go take a Salsa dancing class, +3 interest. You travel the world on a personal mission of self discovery and to find your lost son. +1000 interest.
Then, you forget about it. An actually interesting person does not brag in conversations about how interesting he or she is, and he or she does not have to insert little bits of his or her adventures into the conversation. If it’s brought up, it’s brought up. To demonstrate you are not try-hard immediately increases how interesting you are tenfold.
Finally, a truly interesting person simply has a conversational aura. Enough worldly experience will heighten your social skills to the point you can be very charming without boasting whatsoever, and this automatically makes you interesting. This is a great goal to aim for.
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