“I need it all… The money, the fame, the cars, the clubs” Rihanna – Hard.
Social status is not, and never will be, a replacement for happiness. There is absolutely no correlation between things like money, status over others, a feeling of power over others, and happiness.
What you are doing is attempting to prove yourself worthy to yourself. It’s just the manifestation of insecurity. Absolutely every soul on Earth, at some point, must struggle with low self-esteem. A quick “fix” is to push oneself up in relation to others. It’s easy to feel big, important, and special when you contrast yourself to people “beneath” you.
What this attitude demonstrates is high status and low character. If you require a sense of authority or superiority in order to appreciate yourself, it indicates you have built your character on a flimsy foundation. Luxury and status should be the side-effect of a strong character, good self-esteem, and a lifestyle you enjoy. Not the means necessary to achieve these things.
If wealth, authority, materialism, and status are the keys to happiness, why do people on Wall Street jump out of windows when they lose their jobs? Why are there so many depressed people in Hollywood? Why are divorce rates and personal crises among the upper-class just as frequent, if not more common, than anywhere else?
I don’t believe things like luxury, fame, and status are inherently bad. In fact, in other articles I discuss how to increase some of these attributes (such as this one…). But like so many things, we tend to supplicate happiness in the wrong places. Very often, we’re spurred by envy of people who appear to “have it all” (The money, the fame, the cars, the clubs…). But at the end of the day, these things don’t really mean anything. It’s possible to enjoy these things, and have an exciting lifestyle, but if you’re not already grounded in your own happiness and satisfaction, these things won’t give your life any greater meaning.
You’ll just acquire an insatiable appetite for more, and more. But you won’t feel satisfied. You don’t want to end up like this. So for once, lose the fear. Stop comparing yourself to other people or relating your self-worth to the myth of social status. Spend some time grounding yourself and learning to accept the attributes of your personality. Afterwards, you can think about increasing your luxury.