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The Power of Going Out

Do you get out enough? Do you ever hear the phrase “You don’t get out enough”?

Sometimes the simplest solution to a gloomy feeling is to get oneself out of the house and interacting with people. I consider this highly therapeutic.

Meeting new friends at some busy venue is by far the quickest way to get some perspective on things, experience much needed excitement, and be reminded of the bustling world around you. However, this simple task can be more challenging than it sounds.

The longer we stay in a pattern, such as going between home, tv, office, home, tv, office, the harder it becomes to un-stick ourselves from the pattern. We may find ourselves with a strange case of agoraphobia once we finally leave the house.

And then, after we arrive at the outing, social anxiety sets in. The idea of talking to somebody you’re not already acquainted with can be nerve-wracking. And, please, avoid the easy way around this by drinking large amounts of alcohol. You’re going out to meet people, not become an alcoholic. In addition, seriously—try to talk to and approach people you don’t know. Avoid huddling together with your clique. Once you start practicing this, you’ll be amazed by some of the new people you meet, new affiliations, friends, associates, and potential lovers if you’re single.

The trick is discipline and baby-steps. If you know you need to “get out” more, then you should force yourself to go do something social even if your mind and body is telling you “No!”. It’s the same discipline concept when you drag yourself to the gym. And, just like when you complete a workout, once it’s done you’ll feel refreshed and invigorated. And, just as you develop your body at the gym, socializing is the development of your network, social skills, and charisma.

And don’t use the excuse “I have no friends to go with me”. If all your peers are fellow recluses, then go out by yourself. Yes, it can be nerve-wracking, but you’ll get over it. As you develop your social skills and overcome your shyness, you’ll feel incredibly empowered.

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